6 Hidden Clues Your Ex Wants You Back
— 6 Hidden Clues Your Ex Wants You Back
What’s up YouTube, Breakup Brad here, and today I want to cover 6 clues you can look for in your ex’s behaviour that indicate they want you back. So, if you’re hoping for a second chance with your ex, but you’re not sure how they’re feeling about things… keep your eyes peeled for the 6 clues I’ll be talking about shortly.
First, before you watch any further… if you haven’t already, go to BreakupBrad.com/Quiz and take my free 5-minute quiz. That’s going to be your absolute best tool to figure out your chances of getting back together. Again, take my free quiz and find out your odds right now at BreakupBrad.com/Quiz
Now, if you’ve already taken the quiz, then you’re ready to learn about the 6 clues that often indicate your ex secretly wants you back.
CLUE #1: They’re postponing anything that requires a commitment to being single.
I wanted to start with this clue because it’s one that a lot of people haven’t considered. Now, when I say your ex is postponing “commitments to being single”… what I’m talking about are things that usually need to happen after any breakup, and that are difficult or embarrassing to undo.
For example, this could include:
Taking your name off their car insurance
Agreeing on who gets to keep your pet goldfish
Backing out of an upcoming wedding or event that you had already RSVP’d to as a couple
Splitting up your shared cell phone plan
Changing their Facebook relationship status
Basically, here’s the deal: if your ex is procrastinating taking care of any of these kinds of loose ends, that can indicate they’re not 100% confident that this breakup is permanent. They might be trying to keep their options open and make it easy to get back together in the future. This is especially true when it comes to upcoming events or activities you had previously committed to attending together — if they’re still keen to go to a friend’s wedding as a couple even though you’re not officially together anymore, that can be a sign that they’re still keen to keep you in their life.
Don’t lose hope if your ex has already tied up these loose ends, because that isn’t necessarily game over for getting them back… but, if they’re avoiding or postponing these kinds of things, it’s often a sign they’re not certain whether the breakup will be permanent.
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CLUE #2: They’re reaching out to you frequently.
Look, folks, this one doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out… but remember, if your ex was the one who wanted to break up in the first place, then why would they be contacting you frequently? It’s usually because they miss you, and they still want you in their life.
So, let’s look at 2 hypothetical scenarios you might be facing:
In scenario #1, let’s say your ex dumped you 3 weeks ago. He’s been contacting you every couple of days since then, even though you’ve generally been sticking to No Contact and avoiding reaching out to him. Even though you’ve put in zero effort to initiate contact with him, he’s still trying to talk to you regularly.
In scenario #2, things are a bit different. You broke up 3 MONTHS ago, and your ex has contacted you 4 or 5 times since then. When she does reach out to you, it’s always to ask you for a favour… or to ask a question about something mundane, like whether you’ve seen her pink sweater.
Can you see the huge difference between these two situations? In scenario #1, it’s clear that this kind of unsolicited, frequent contact from your ex is a great sign for your chances of getting back together. It’s only been a few weeks, you’ve been employing No Contact, and your ex is still regularly trying to talk to you.
In scenario #2, there’s been a bit of contact, but it’s always “business like,” never just for friendly conversation or flirting. And even though your ex has reached out a half dozen times since the breakup, that’s over a period of 3 months. If this describes your current situation, then unfortunately this isn’t really a good sign… yes, they’ve attempted to contact you, but it’s not nearly the same kind of positive, unsolicited contact that I described in scenario #1.
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