“Help! My Ex Blocked Me On Social Media!”
— "Help! My Ex Blocked Me On Social Media!"
YouTube! What’s up, my name is Breakup Brad, and you’re watching my latest video… this time, I’ll be talking about what it means — and what to do — when your ex blocks you on social media after breaking up. When this video is over, I suggest you visit my website, BreakupBrad.com, and watch my full video tutorial for more tips on how to rekindle things with your ex.
But, for now, let’s talk about why your ex blocked you… and what to do about it.
Now, there’s a few reasons WHY your ex may have blocked you after breaking up. Let’s start with most obvious one first:
Reason #1: You did something that made your ex very, very angry at you.
I don’t think this one should come as a shock, but let me spell it out anyway: if you did or said something to your ex before breaking up, or in the immediate aftermath of your breakup, that made your ex very angry or upset… then that’s probably why they blocked you! For example, I often work with clients who cheated on their ex, and in that kind of situation it shouldn’t be surprising that they’ve decided to block you. This may or may not be something you can overcome, but I’ll talk about what you should do in this kind of situation in a minute.
But before we get into that, let’s talk about the second common reason why your ex may have blocked you…
Reason #2: Your ex is struggling with the breakup themselves, and don’t want to be reminded of you every time they log on to social media.
As I’ve said in many of my past videos, breakups are often just as difficult for the one who initiates them as they are for the person who was dumped. In other words, your ex is likely going through the same heartache and emotions that you are. And of course, as I’m sure you’re well aware, being reminded of your ex every time you log on to social media can bring all those emotions back to the surface… so, many people block their ex on social media after breaking up in order to avoid the constant reminders and avoid becoming emotional when they see something their ex has posted on social media.
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If your breakup wasn’t ugly and full of screaming and yelling — in other words, if you didn’t do something hurtful or upsetting to your ex — then this is almost certainly the reason why they’ve decided to block you. As I’ll explain in a minute, this can actually be a good sign if you’re still hoping to get back together.
Reason #3: Your ex blocked you to get “revenge” because they think doing so will hurt you.
This is something I see less often than the previous two reasons I just covered, but it does happen. Sometimes, an ex will be looking to “get back” at you — especially if you were the one who initiated the breakup — and they may think that blocking you on social media will anger or upset you. This is obviously an immature way to handle a breakup, and doesn’t really speak very highly of their character, but I have seen it happen from time to time.
OK, now that we’ve covered the three most common reasons why your ex has blocked you, let’s talk about what you can and should do about it.
Let’s start with the bad news, shall we? The bad news is that, regardless of why your ex has blocked you on social media, there’s nothing you can do to change that fact in the short term. DO NOT — I repeat, DO NOT — overreact and lash out at your ex, or even reach out and politely ask them to unblock you. This isn’t going to work, for starters, and it’s also not the type of message you want to be sending if you’re trying to get your ex back and start over. Their decision to block you is something that, unfortunately, you can’t really change change with words. Pleading, begging, or lashing out and getting angry at your ex over this kind of thing is 100% guaranteed to backfire and make matters even worse.
The single best thing you can do in this situation is play it cool. Respect your ex’s desire for privacy, and don’t message them or call them out on the fact they’ve blocked you. I promise you that if you try to do or say something to convince them to unblock you, or even if you ask them WHY they’ve blocked you, it’s not going to help you out at all, whether you want them back or not.
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