Partner Wants A “Break” From Your Relationship? Here’s What To Do…
— Partner Wants A "Break" From Your Relationship? Here's What To Do…
What should you do if your boyfriend or girlfriend tells you they want to take a “break” from the relationship? In this video, I’ll explain what your ex really means when they ask for a “break” or some time apart… and I’ll tell you exactly what you need to do if you don’t want the “break” to turn into a permanent breakup.
My name, of course, is Brad Browning… I’ve been YouTube’s #1 breakup coach since 2012, and I’ve been helping people get their ex back and deal with breakups for a lot longer than that.
Before I begin explaining what your ex REALLY meant when they said they wanted a “break”, I want to quickly do some shameless self-promotion… because honestly, everyone watching this video right now should take 5 minutes to complete my free quiz. The quiz will evaluate your answers, and give you a score showing your chances of getting back together. Go to BreakupBrad.com/Quiz right now or after the video is over and try it out for yourself.
OK, now… maybe your boyfriend or girlfriend told you they want to take a “break”. Maybe they asked for some “time and space” to “think things over”. Regardless of the exact words they used, it’s the same fundamental situation: you’re not together, but you’re not officially broken up. You’re in relationship no-man’s-land.
It probably won’t surprise you to hear that this type of situation is very, very common. Many of my coaching clients ask me about what their “break” really means, so I figured it’s time to finally make a video about it.
First off, there’s one thing you absolutely should NOT do if you’re facing this type of situation…. And that is to fight back, and try to talk your ex out of taking a “break”. If your ex is telling you they want some space, you need to give them space… period. No matter how much you may disagree with the idea of taking some time apart, it’s never a good idea to push back and try to resist. Doing so is literally ALWAYS going to make the situation worse, trust me.
So, here’s what you say in response: “OK, yeah. Some time apart would maybe be a healthy thing for both of us.”
Why go along with an idea that you don’t agree with? Because anything you try to do or say to change your partner’s mind is only going to reinforce their belief that they need a break from the relationship. The harder you resist their suggestion, the more they’re going to feel claustrophobic and desperate for time apart. It also makes you look weak and needy when you really want to be showing your ex that you’re not scared of some time on your own.
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Let’s move on now and talk a little bit about what it MEANS when your ex suggests taking a break from the relationship. There are 3 main reasons why a person would ask their boyfriend or girlfriend for some time apart:
Reason #1 – They’re feeling frustrated or overwhelmed by some recent drama or problems in the relationship, or they’re stressed out by life in general.
To some extent, when your partner asks for time apart, it’s always because they’re feeling somewhat frustrated or fed up with the relationship recently. You know that feeling when you get so sick of something or someone — like, when you’re struggling to assemble a new piece of furniture, and sometimes it gets to the point where you just have to put down the tools and give up for a while. It’s possible your ex has had the same experience, only they’re fed up with how things are going in your relationship rather than an IKEA bookshelf.
It’s also possible your boyfriend or girlfriend is just stressed in general lately… maybe they’re feeling overwhelmed with work, school, family, etc… and they just can’t handle the responsibilities of being in a relationship along with all the other stressful things in their life. This is more commonly used as an excuse to cover the REAL reasons your partner wants some time apart… but, general life stress can definitely be a factor that leads to people to take a break from the relationship.
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