The BEST Way To Contact Your Ex After a Breakup
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What is the very best way to contact your ex? Well, that’s exactly what I’ll be talking about in this video. Now of course you guys already know this, but I am Brad Browning, YouTube’s #1 rated breakup coach… leave a comment below after the video if you want to ask me a question about your specific situation.
Now, today we’re going to talk about the best and worst ways to contact your ex, and I will get to that in just a second, I promise… but first, there’s two extremely important things you need to know BEFORE you reach out to your ex by any means or for any reason.
So, #1 — you need to have a REASON to contact your ex. Ok? You need to know WHY you’re reaching out to them. You can’t just say “hey, what’s up” or “hows it going” or anything boring and pointless like that. I know this sounds obvious, but so many people try to start communicating with their ex without having anything interesting or meaningful to say, and it always leads nowhere.
Now, your reason doesn’t have to be fully legitimate. If you want to open a conversation with your ex, for example, you can just find a funny meme or gif that you know will make him or her laugh… or you could share an inside joke…. That’s usually a sufficient “reason” to contact your ex out of the blue. Or you can come up with a legitimate-sounding question: maybe your ex is an avid traveler and you can ask for advice planning an upcoming trip, or maybe you can’t find your sunglasses and want to ask if your ex had seem them.
Whatever your reason is, the important thing is that you avoid sending your ex pointless texts… always have some kind of reason to contact them.
Now, there’s a SECOND thing you need to know before you contact your ex. You need to have a general idea of where your ex’s head is at before you start calling or texting. You should be at least somewhat confident that whatever you say to them is going to be well-received. If your ex is still furious at you for sleeping with their best friend, then you probably shouldn’t be sending them funny cat videos 2 days after breaking up.
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You also don’t want to come across as a creep, or piss off your ex by contacting them… so, be mindful of that when you’re thinking about reaching out, especially if it’s been a long time since you’ve last spoken. The longer it’s been since you last spoke, and since your initial breakup, the more important it is to have a good reason to contact them… and the more careful you need to be about making sure your ex doesn’t think you’re weird and creepy.
Now, if you’ve taken those 2 things I just mentioned into consideration… it’s time to reach out. What is the WORST way to contact your ex?
The worst way is to show up in person unexpectedly. That’s just creepy, folks, so don’t randomly drive to your ex’s house and ring the doorbell just to say hi.
The only time I recommend in-person communication with your ex is when you’ll already be in a room together for some other reason — for example, if it’s been a few months since you last spoke, and you’re both attending a mutual friend’s wedding. In situations like that, you can use the opportunity to bump into them and drop a joke or ask a meaningful question. If you handle the conversation well, that can get you on your ex’s mind again, and lead to a re-opening of more regular communication later.
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