Three Texts to Send After No Contact
— Three Texts to Send After No Contact
Hey YouTube, Brad Browning here. In this video I’m going to talk about the top three text messages that you need to send to your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend AFTER no contact. Now, if you’re brand new to my channel… welcome. But in order for you to understand this video, you’re going to have to familiarize yourself with No Contact.
I have a TON of videos on my YouTube channel about No Contact and why it’s important, but simply put, No Contact means that after the breakup, you’re engaging in a period of ABSOLUTELY NO CONTACT with your ex girlfriend or boyfriend. In this time, you have to rebuild your image and self confidence, and engage in covert psychological warfare with your ex without them knowing. You essentially want to be in the best shape possible when it’s finally time to establish contact with your ex.
But if you want to learn MORE about No Contact first before diving into this video, then you can check out some of the videos that I have on the topic. I’ll put a link to those videos in the description below here.
So I’m going to jump right ahead and assume that you’ve already engaged in No Contact and you’ve followed my advice to the tee. At this point, your ex hasn’t heard from you in awhile, but they’ll be open to chatting with you… and if you’ve done everything correctly so far, they might even be thinking about you and fantasizing about you.
So what do you say to them?
First, we have to talk about what the GOAL of reaching out is. Right now, you shouldn’t be trying to convince your ex to get back together with you. You’re simply not going to be able to do that through a text message – at least not yet. All you’re trying to do with your first text message is to try and set up an in-person hangout.
So keep this in mind while you’re crafting your first message.
I think the best way to do this is to jump into a great example of a first text to send your ex and then we can go from there…
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1.) Text Number One – The “You’re The Expert” text message… You could say something like…
“Hey, I’ve decided to renovate my patio with some IKEA stuff. You were always so good with that sort of thing… any chance I can quickly pick your brain? Coffee’s on me.”
Or how about…
“I’ve decided to FINALLY get that guitar that I’ve always wanted. You know, that blue one we saw that the shop? I just wanted to ask you a few things about the guitar stuff first though… any chance we could meet for a quick coffee on me?”
This is a great message for a number of reasons. First, it’s short so it doesn’t convey any sort of desperation. It’s also relatively non threatening… you didn’t bring up anything serious or the relationship… and you’re not begging or pleading. Instead, you’re simply just petting your ex’s ego… and you’re texting for a solid purpose. You’re giving your ex a reason to pick up their phone and text you back.
At this point, your ex should be totally receptive to setting up a really short and easy coffee hangout. Remember, you do NOT want to give your ex the impression that you’re trying to get back together with them… or that you want to talk about the relationship in any way. You ONLY want to talk about what you texted them about, and that’s it.
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